Our quality of life comes down to our relationships in so many ways.  Our relationship with ourselves and our relationship with others will set the course for how we show up each day and what we do and who we are being in our life which ultimately determines if we are living our life on our authentic terms.

When we are living our life in alignment from the inside out we stay off The Chronic Cycle Burnout Loop and don't fall into the Burnout Restoration Illusion Trap.

Boundaries are what help establish our space and place in the world.  Boundaries allow us to uphold our values, get our needs met consistently and to thrive in freedom, peace and joy as the wonderfully wired human that you are.

So often Ali and I hear clients share with us that they feel as if they have lost themselves somewhere along the way in their relationships due to masking and more.  Ali and I have also experienced this in our AuDHD lives and have proven strategies to help you show up and feel like you in all your relationships.

When I ask the question, "Did you learn about boundaries growing up?"  Most people laugh and reply "What boundaries?!"  Well this was also my answer.  I didn't grow up talking about boundaries or what they were or even meant.  If this is your response too, well you are in the right place.

In many relationships this is what both partners would respond and when that is the experience, having two people in a relationship who aren't really sure what boundaries are or how to use them as a tool, there is often conflict, misunderstandings and loads of hurt feelings along the way.

This course on boundaries will help you learn what boundaries really are, the 7 types and three styles of boundaries and how to begin identifying them in your life and relationships.  We will also help you begin to set and practice the top boundaries to get your relationships working FOR you.

Boundaries fall into 7 different categories

And there are 3 different STYLES of Boundaries to accompany those boundary types.  IF you are wondering what each type of boundary means in your daily life, how it looks, sounds and behaves and aren't sure if you even have any at this point that is just some of what you will be learning and applying in your life in this Boundaries Self Paced course.

Consistent unmet needs are the biggest contributing factor to burnout and our needs don't get met consistently without healthy boundaries.  Our relationships with ourselves and others remain in conflict and disconnect when boundaries aren't set and upheld to give us a framework.

Take your First Steps to Burnout Restoration to the next level in your Relationships with Boundaries.

In this course on Boundaries in Relationships and beyond, the material is broken down into 2 parts, Boundaries Part 1 and Boundaries Part 2, so that you can take each boundary types on its own.  You will have a video for each boundary type along with reflection questions and a workbook to take you through each boundary type and style.

We kick off boundaries with understanding and establishing your Zone of Safety.  Ali and I know that feeling safe and having a zone of safety to begin exploring and using boundaries sometimes for the first time in your life is important.

Meet your Guides for Boundaries

My name is Carole Jean Whittington and most of you know me as the host of the Beyond Autistic Burnout Talk Show and Community. I’m a world-renowned Autistic Burnout Restoration Strategist, author of  "Unleashing Sustainable
Energy: A Strategic Approach to Transforming Spicy Burnout for ADHD/Autistic Professionals" and the creator of The UnVeiling Method helping minds of all kinds get off The Chronic Cycle Burnout Loop for good.

I’m the one who’s ‘got it all’ wonderful family, authentic relationships, and I have built a business doing what I love in a way that works for my autistic ADHD brain.

But here’s the thing…

MY LIFE DIDN’T START OUT WONDERFUL

I was not born with any of this. I have led a FAR from charmed life, experiencing poverty & bankruptcy, chronic illnesses, depression, abusive relationships and crippling debt.

But now, I look back and can hardly believe that difficult life was mine.

The debts are dwindling

The illnesses are under control

The abusive partners are history.

The bouts of extreme depression and suicidal ideations are a thing of the past.

I’m joyful almost all the time in most circumstances

I'm entering year 4 of thriving Burnout, Shutdown and Meltdown FREE after 40 years on the Chronic Cycle Burnout Loop and the Burnout Restoration Illusion Trap

But I’m not special. I’m not different or remarkably talented.

I’m just an ordinary autistic ADHD person like you.

The only difference is…

I UNDERSTAND HOW  MY NEURODISTINCT MIND AND SENSORY SYSTEM WORKS AND I WORK WITH IT

And I’ve created an entire program with my partner Ali Arena just so you can learn to master your beautiful and wonderfully wired autistic brain too.

If you’ve ever felt different, broken, like there’s something missing or wrong that stops you from being joyful & your authentic self, you’re going to LOVE The UnVeiling Method.

Hi, I am Ali Arena Perkinson and I’m a therapist, social communication detective, behavior pattern detector, life long learner, proud #ADHER, dog mom, champagne & pizza  woman, and my specialty is neurodiverse communication.

The way I found out I had ADHD was by a beautiful accident. I was at my therapist’s office, venting about how I just can’t seem to keep up with all the expectations of getting my doctorate, being a girlfriend, and flying back to New Jersey to be in 10 weddings (yes that is correct 10), and my therapist who I had known for three years says, “Well yes, that’s your ADHD.”  I laughed and said, “I don’t have ADHD,” and she awkwardly backtracked and went “Oh, I just assumed we both were under the impression you’d been diagnosed since you were little.” 

I later learned, because I am a therapist, I was already adding in so many therapeutic supports to my own life that I viewed everything I experienced as “normal” but other people saw it as therapeutic interventions. I then took a battery of tests (because I am a nerd and love neuropsychology testing), found a great psychiatrist, and a medication that works for me.  

I think more about my executive dysfunctions and plan around them now. This new understanding of me now helps when I put on my ADHD glasses and view those areas where I was feeling shame about finances, meal planning, and hating being at parties.  I am so lucky to have a partner who works with my quirks and allows me to test strategies that help other neurodivergent couples. 

I am just a girl who has found some answers and I am here to share them with you.